Purpose.
Every experienced decision maker knows the frustration of having to deal with the aftermath of the right decision that was made the wrong way.
Nicola Roxon, the former Federal Attorney-General and Health Minister gave a speech this week in which she told of the previous government dealing with the same consequences. It was a rare insight into the fundamentals of good decision making in the leadership of the country.
She explained why the Labor Party chose to remove Kevin Rudd as the Prime Minister.
'I think we had all the right reasons to act,' she said, 'but I think we were clumsy and short sighted in the way we did it.'
'Even though the reasons were there to justify our action, I don’t think we handled it properly at the time, and Labor has paid a very high price for this mishandling ever since.'
In other words, Labor's process leading up to and following the removal of Kevin Rudd revealed, tested and shaped its Widget in the eyes of the electorate. The re-defining of its Widget that this caused, and the damage to Labor's integrity is hard to overcome.
'If Kevin had been an employee,' Ms Roxon a former industrial lawyer said, 'he would have won his unfair dismissal case. Not because there wasn’t cause to dismiss him, but because we didn’t explain the reasons properly to him, let alone to the voting public.'
'I used to see a lot of these cases - where there was good cause to dismiss someone but the employer hadn’t given notice of the problem, or used a different excuse because it was too embarrassing to simply tell a colleague they weren’t up to the job, or that everyone found them unbearable.'
She spoke about how attempts to save people from the consequences of their actions and the decisions that they draw upon themselves can actually be crueller in the long run.
'After the most brutal and speedy sacking, we got overcome with politeness and thought it would save Kevin pain to say as little as possible and move on quickly. What the rest of the world calls a polite white lie, became political poison.
'So although at the time it seemed unimaginable to contemplate being so publically rude to your own PM, with the benefit of hindsight, some of us should’ve spoken out - if not before, at least immediately after.
'Instead, we made a brutal decision and then shied from the brutal explanation that was needed.
'We left everyone looking for other answers and by doing this we did a great disservice to both Kevin and Julia. On its own it would’ve cast a long shadow over the next three years in government, and with active fanning by Kevin and his supporters, it proved impossible to recover from.'
It's either sobering or reassuring for the average boss to know that the senior law and justice officer in the country and an expert in employment law was collateral damage from her government's poor workplace performance management and decision making.
This is a striking example of how even the most experienced, intelligent and powerful decision makers can be so fixated on the need to make the right decision, to be 'decisive', that they neglect to make the decision in the right way.
They got what they wanted - the removal of Kevin Rudd as Prime Minister - yet at the cost of their Widget. As Ms Roxon said in response to the argument that political expediency justified the decision:
'We know bums on seats in Parliament do matter - but they aren’t all that matters. If the damage to our sense of purpose, to our reputation for delivering good policy and for caring for the community is severe, this reputational loss, and lack of purpose, can take longer to recover from than it takes to win back seats here and there.
'And it is harder to win the seats back if your people don’t think you stand for anything.'
Hard.
A Leader recognises the tension between the uncertainty, anxiety and chaos that flow from navigating virgin territory, and the fear that this is evidence that she is failing and that she needs to turn back.
Leadership is Leadership because it is advancing where no-one has been before. Leadership is taking people in a direction that they otherwise wouldn't have chosen. It follows (no pun intended) that this will give rise to emotional turbulence in both the Leader and those following her.
It is hard.
Leaders are Leaders because they continue to advance towards where they want to be beyond the point where the PowerPoint leaders turn back because there's no path and it's hard and people are complaining.
The PowerPoint leader talks of leadership of leading of leaders of lead of leadership positions with the background hum of their wheels running over the smooth bitumen highway that was beaten, then surveyed, then graded, then laid out in front of them to travel on in air conditioned comfort with the cruise control on directed by the onboard navigation system while everyone's asleep in the back.
The PowerPoint leader then makes a decision in their voice to deviate. They immediately become disconcerted by the sound and unevenness of the gravel and the bumpy ride as they veer off someone else's route. Those in the back seat stir and mutter at being disturbed by the poor driving. They peer through the windows and feel anxious as they don't recognise their surroundings. They seek comfort and affirmation of the legitimacy of their fears in the other anxious fellow back seat faces. There's murmurs of dissent.
The PowerPoint leader makes another decision that relies on what they learned from their first decision. They veer off the track and into virgin terrain. The back seat grumbles grow into calls to turn back because surely the vibrations and the shaking and the noise and the uncertainty mean that this can't be the right direction.
Wrong way. Turn back. You must be lost. There's no track let alone marked highway and signs. Look around. Nobody else is on this route. Here - look at the map that proves you're wrong. Everyone in the back seat thinks you're wrong. We took a vote. Democracy.
The fear for the novice Leader transcending from PowerPoint slides is that the voices behind them and in their head might be right. Who do they think they are to deviate off the bitumen?
The real time symptoms of error are the same as those of Leadership. It's only those who may follow who can see the sense and predictability of the path.
Choosing to transcend the PowerPoint slides and into Leadership demands exceptional confidence that can survive the battering to ego and identity and the ceaseless gnawing of self-doubt that is louder than the critics' voices. Not motivated by any external goal or incentive because these may never be grasped.
But because to do so is to become who you are.
Decider.
The President of the United States Barack Obama gave revealing interview about his decision making.
“You’ll see I wear only gray or blue suits....I’m trying to pare down decisions. I don’t want to make decisions about what I’m eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make.”
“You need to focus your decision-making energy. You need to routinize yourself. You can’t be going through the day distracted by trivia.”
He quoted President George W Bush who described the President as 'a decider'.
“Nothing comes to my desk that is perfectly solvable. Otherwise, someone else would have solved it. So you wind up dealing with probabilities. Any given decision you make you’ll wind up with a 30 to 40 percent chance that it isn’t going to work. You have to own that and feel comfortable with the way you made the decision. You can’t be paralyzed by the fact that it might not work out.” [My emphasis.]
Note that President Obama believes that 'comfort' doesn't come from the outcome of the decision. It comes from 'owning' the way that the decision was made.
The President added that 'after you have made your decision, you need to feign total certainty about it. People being led do not want to think probabilistically.'
“One of my most important tasks is making sure I stay open to people, and the meaning of what I’m doing, but not to get so overwhelmed by it that it’s paralyzing. Option one is to go through the motions. That I think is a disaster for a president.'
"There are times when I have to save it and let it out at the end of the day.”
Integrity.
The events leading to the suspension of James Hird as coach of the Essendon Football Club are a classic study in how decisions reveal, test and shape who we really are - beyond what we say we are.
James Hird stated in January that he took 'full responsibility' for everything done in the Football department. To you and me 'full responsibility' means that whatever happened, James will accept the consequences as if he pulled every lever, regardless of what he actually personally did or knew.
This is a sound legal and ethical position to take. Very commendable. His words gave comfort and reassurance that transcend the uncertainty about what happened. They were saying to us 'Don't worry. I was in charge and you know me. I am a Man of integrity and I would never allow illegal drug taking to go on. If it did, then I'd see it as such a heinous oversight on my part that I would resign. I'm still in charge, so that tells you that all is well. That shows you how confident that I am in my Club, and therefore you should be also.'
Then look at what he actually does because this is what speaks loudest. He dodges and weaves and blames others. What we assumed he meant by 'full responsibility' was wrong.
Yet we don't get to say 'James - you're wrong. You should do such-and-such.' James gets to define his Widget. Essendon affirms his definition for as long as he is employed as coach. He explains to us what he means by 'full responsibility' by his actions. He's not wrong if he acts differently to what we assumed. We are wrong in what we assumed James meant.
The result for James Hird is far worse than us thinking that he's 'wrong' - or indeed that he was ultimately suspended for a year by the governing body. There's nothing wrong with being 'wrong' - this is important and - in James' case - sad. The result of James' actions is that we can no longer make assumptions about what James will do when he says that he will do something. Indeed there's a double whammy because people also generally react badly to being duped.
'Integrity' is simply doing what you said that you were going to do. James no longer has integrity for those of us who assumed 'full responsibility' meant its plain meaning. We now have to second guess him when he says that something is a spade. Does he actually mean a shovel?
This should be such a fatal blow to his ability to lead - in any sense. We lack confidence in where he says he's going to take us. He says he's going to lead us to victory. Whose definition of victory? James' or ours? This uncertainty is death to a leader.
Our decisions - not our words - reveal, test and shape us.
It was so, so easy for James to sound noble and Churchillian in January. 'Full responsibility!' Yet James' decisions were harder to make than those words were to utter. Real life tested his courage to stand by his words.
And most fatally for him and Essendon, they will continue to shape how others will behave in the future in response to whatever he or Essendon say. This is damage that can't be undone.
It takes a few clicks of a marketing manager's keyboard to declare what an organisation is 'committed to'. But that is just plastic clickety-clack noise until a decision reveals what that actually means, tests just how 'committed' it is, and then shapes our assumptions about what it will do in the future.
As for James Hird - Essendon has offered him a two year contract extension. It appears that he has produced his Widget precisely to his employers' specifications.
And as for the governing body - the Australian Football League - what does it tell us about its Widget? How much did the $1.253 Billion in television rights and James Hird's popularity among supporters and viewers and ratings affect its decision-making? Again, it's pointless for us to argue whether it should have.
A better way to shape the AFL's Widget to our specifications? Stop buying it. Switch off the TV and with it the advertisers who pay the broadcasters who bid for the TV rights from the AFL which decides whether James Hird's Widget is well-made.
Spades.
We initially define another's Widget based upon what they say it is.
If they say it's a spade, and we buy it, and it performs as we assume that a spade does, then no problem.
If it performs as an axe, then we have a problem. We say 'But I assumed that this would dig holes' and they say - whatever.
We could argue or complain and perhaps win.
But the real problem is that we can't rely on them any more. Even if we win and convince them that it isn't a spade but it's an axe - we might get a refund or an exchange - but we can never trust them again because we can't rely on what they say aligning with what we think that they mean.
That's why defining our Widget and then acting consistently with it is such a fundamental and important part of what any person or organisation needs to do. One tenth of the job is defining the Widget. Then the other 90% is communicating it in both words AND actions such that it aligns with what people expect the Widget to be.
We are all ethics teachers both internally and externally. Everyone watches to see what we DO and then there is almost no going back.
Employees won't usually say 'Hey - you said that people are your most valuable asset and yet you treat me like dirt'. They will just absorb it into their assumptions about the worth of your words and then treat everything that you say with skepticism and begin to silently disengage without trace.
This is why our response to people or organisations who do not deliver on the Widget as we expect them to do is critical and where our freedom really lies. If we accept the Widget as delivered - axe not spade - then we accept the organisation's definition of the Widget.
As employees, consumers, or observers, we do contribute to defining an organisation's Widget - but not through saying 'You're wrong' (especially as an employee) but through how we choose to act in response.
Debating whether a person or organisation's Widget is 'correct' is wasted energy, especially if it involves conflict. It's their Widget not ours.
A better response is to say 'Oh - so that's what you meant when you said 'Integrity''.
We make our decisions in response to their newly-defined Widget. If we're a customer, we don't give any more business and tell our friends to do likewise. If we're an employee, we quit. If we're an elector, we vote out the Government. If we do none of these things then we're accepting and affirming the organisation's definition of its Widget. It will continue to sell spades that chop trees, disrespect our work, or make bad laws.
Once an organisation loses our trust by saying its Widget is one thing yet delivering another, it's very very hard for it to recover. Because even if it says (as many do when their profit, polling or other measure of their Widget success begins to fall) 'We were wrong and now we're going to do things differently' - how do you know what 'differently' means?
Copyright.
It's rare for decision makers to let us in on their decision making.
The fortunate exceptions are courts and the government. We can walk into almost any court and hear the judge explain how she reached her judgment. We can sit in the public gallery in parliament and listen to debate over legislation.
It's risky for decision makers to explain their reasoning because it may make their decisions look like the product of a methodical process of inquiry rather than the result of charisma or instinct or divine revelation. So we usually don't get invited to meetings or sent the minutes.
If decision makers publish the blueprint of how they do things they fear making themselves redundant. It means that anyone with the same information and process of reasoning could do what they do. Earn what they earn. Wield their power.
A Leader falls over herself to make her decision-making transparent. Her processes are open source. That's how she became a Leader. She's a teacher. She wants to show her working out for others to copy and follow. Leaders become Leaders because people are confident enough in their decision making to choose to follow them.
A Leader isn't worried about becoming redundant by showing her working out for three reasons:
One: It's who she is.
Two: While everyone is busy poring over her blueprints to discover and copy the trick, the Leader has long moved on to explore and fail and learn and make decisions and publish their working out for others to copy or follow if they so choose. In other words - Leading.
Three: Leaders are brave.
Managed.
'No-one likes to be managed.'
This is what Dr Tim McDonald said at his inaugural address to staff after being appointed as Director of Catholic Education.
He's right.
Bosses should be teachers, not managers.
We promote people to be bosses and expect them to manage other people - who in turn learn how to be managed.
We regress to our twelve year Masters of Being Agreeable: school and the teacher-student dynamic.
(Ironic given my bosses-as-teachers analogy.)
The result is bosses who have nothing to teach but compliance to workers who are being measured on their willingness to comply.
A good boss teaches. Educates. Educare. To draw out.
A good boss helps us to become who we are.
Information
Imagine if everyone went to the Executive team meetings.
Or received a copy of the Minutes.
Or at least got an email saying:
'The Executive team met today and here are the things that we discussed and the decisions that we made and why we made them.
We will begin to execute those decisions in 48 hours. If you have any suggestion as to how we could improve any of them, please let us know.
If you have any questions about anything that the Executive does, please also ask us. Thank you'.
How much of the power held in organisations is the result of being at a meeting and having more information than someone who wasn't?
If an organisation is truly Widget focussed ('Alignment' I think is the fancy term);
If an organisation is truly desperate for everyone to be continuously learning so that it can remain innovative ('The Learning Organisation' is what we consultants cleverly call it);
If it wants people who make decisions that others choose to follow ('Leaders' is what I call people who do that);
Then why wouldn't a leader in a learning organisation who's widget focussed want to throw open the floodgates of information and works-in-progress for everyone to see and contribute towards and learn from as openly as technology allows?
My best answer so far (I'm still thinking about this) is that it's because people with the power to do this are the ones who go to executive meetings and they have egos.
They are putting their Weekend Widget ahead of their Weekday Widget.
Information is power.
Google it.
Textbook
A textbook example of good decision-making was on display today for us all to learn from.
The Australian Electoral Commissioner, Mr Ed Killesteyn decided to allow appeals from two of the unsuccessful Senate candidates in the recent Federal Election. He overruled a decision by the Electoral Officer for Western Australia. He published his reasons for the world to see.
1.4 million votes were counted and those candidates who had the most votes won seats in the Senate. Simple maths. Nothing complicated there.
Two of the unsuccessful candidates argued that the count was so close that the votes should be re-counted in case there was a mistake in counting them. Put another way, the losers were alleging that the officers counting the ballot papers failed to do their jobs properly. The scrutineers looking over the electoral officers' shoulders also failed in their jobs.
The Western Australian Electoral Officer responded to the requests for a recount by effectively saying: No. I'm not doing a re-count. Just because it's close - doesn't mean that the counters and the scrutineers made mistakes.
The two unsuccessful candidates said that they thought that the WA Electoral Officer had made the wrong decision. So they appealed. Today Mr Killesteyn decided to order a re-count. Mr Killesteyn published his reasons on the Internet. So we all get to learn from how he made his decision. Here's how he explained it to those affected - ie the Australian people:
"In making my decision I sought an explanation of the various matters raised in the appeals from Senator Ludlam and Mr Dropulich. (The Assess stage of the Five Steps to a Good Decision.)
"I also provided an opportunity for written correspondence from the other key affected parties in the Senate election.' (The Hearing step in the Five Steps to a Good Decision.)
"I have concluded that the recount will be in the best interest of all candidates who contested the 2013 WA Senate election, and in the overall interest of the WA electorate's confidence in the outcome," (The Issue step in the Five Steps to a Good Decision.)
Thankfully Mr Killesteyn didn't explain himself like some decision makers responding to appeals by complainants. He didn't say 'I have investigated this matter and have found that the WA Electoral Commissioner was wrong and that the electoral officers who counted the votes were guilty of misconduct and the scrutineers were negligent'.
He didn't say 'I have stood down the WA Electoral Commissioner and I will appoint new electoral officers to re-count the votes and I will decide the outcome.'
He didn't even say 'The appellants were right'. In fact he affirmed the reasoning of the WA Electoral Commissioner's decision saying: '...closeness of a particular count in the process of distributing Senate preferences is not in itself a basis for a recount...'.
He granted the re-count 'in the best interests of all the candidates'. Wow. Not just in the interests of the two who appealed or the other unsuccessful candidates but even those who had initially thought they'd won.
This is such a powerful statement by Mr Killesteyn. He is saying 'I know that the candidates who are finally declared Senators will want to be certain that they were elected by the majority of people.' He is assuming the best in each of the candidates. A brilliant example of a decision maker who has the wisdom to see beyond simplistic winners and losers and to reasoning a decision that serves the individual and the greater good.
He also granted the recount 'in the overall interest of the WA electorate's confidence in the outcome.' Mr Killesteyn recognises that he's responsible for a very valuable Widget. Nothing short of the Democratic Process is at stake.
Yet despite the magnitude of his decision compared to the subject matter of most workplace complaints or investigations, no mention of 'punishment', 'wrong', 'guilty', or striking of his breast with phrases like 'We remain vigorously committed to the democratic process and have a zero tolerance for errors in counting votes and in the management of that process'.
Mr Killesteyn resolved this 'complaint' to the satisfaction of his Widget - not to make the complainants happy or to find anyone guilty of anything.
Re-counting 1.4 million bits of paper is nothing if it shines that priceless Widget.
Mistakes.
A good decision is one that advances us towards where we want to be.
Mistakes - like forcing functions - say 'Wrong Way. Turn Back'.
The decision that led to the mistake still advances us towards where we want to be (and is therefore a good decision) if we've:
(a) got a Widget that we're measuring our progress against, and
(b) are leaving breadcrumbs (e.g. the 5 Steps) that we can use to retrace our path so that we know to turn left instead of right next time.
(One great outcome of making a mistake is that you may turn around to retrace your steps and bump into people following you. Confirms you're a leader. May as well encourage their own mistake-making by chatting with them about the terrain you learned about while making yours. That's what Leaders do.)
If our decisions are ad hoc and random then mistakes have little to teach us. People will only follow us because they have to - and even then very slowly.
Thus a decision is a good one regardless of the outcome as long as what we learn from it leads us closer to where we want to be.
Penicillin was discovered by mistake.
We need to normalise error that results from good decision making.
Why don't more organisations do this?
Because this is what Leaders do.
Brave things.
Despite the 313,000,000 hits on Google for 'Leadership' and everyone talking and teaching it, true Leaders in the wild are rare and precious and very quiet.
Principle.
A lot of workplace unhappiness and conflict arises from being dishonest with ourselves.
We are frustrated because our work is not contributing to our Weekend Widget. Or because our Weekend Widget is unsatisfying. Or because we don't know what our Weekend Widget is.
We're unlikely to acknowledge this root cause, let alone take responsibility for it. To do so sounds selfish and stupid - because it is. Worse, it would confront us with our inertia, and the effort it takes to overcome it.
Can you imagine this admission: 'I'm really unhappy in my job because I want to be a professional photographer.'
It's too hard to be ourselves.
It's easier to blame our co-workers or our boss or our employer or the government or our family or someone else who is responsible.
But we can't tell this story to our fellow jaded employees over sandwiches: 'You all need to change so that I can feel more authentic in my workplace.' There has to be a nobler story where we are the hero or victim.
It's usually about Injustice or Unfairness. We hold the attention of our bored co-workers with regular updates about Our Fight for A Principle.
As Liz once said: ''Principle' is often code for feeling vulnerable about disclosing/being honest with yourself about underlying fears, motivations and needs.'
The struggle gives us meaning where we had none. The fight to bring a happy ending to our Story of Workplace Injustice becomes our Weekend and Weekday Widget combined. (The definition of a dream job.)
We may even win our battle. We get a captive audience over lunch. We get an apology from our boss or co-worker. We get a transfer. Or the worst outcome - a pay rise.
Now we've got alienated or new co-workers or boss, or a different desk, or more money in our bank to do - something - on the weekends.
And we're not travelling the world taking photographs for National Geographic.
Distinction.
I was recently advising a member of the Defence Force in my Reserve Legal Officer capacity.
He had been given an Unsuitability Report. This means that his boss had ruled that he lacked the ability to do his job through no fault of his own.
I asked him about the short statement that he had written in response to receiving the Report.
'Why did you state that you accepted the Report?' I asked.
'Because my Sergeant is my boss and the expert and it's his job to decide whether I'm suitable and therefore I have to accept his decision.'
'So why do you want my advice if you've said that you accept his decision?'
'I just don't think he used the right information. So I want to give it to him.'
It was the first time in 24 years of advising on decision making that I've ever had someone so clearly understand the distinction.
The irony is - he's been assessed as 'lacking maturity'.
Other.
There's a theory that matter only becomes matter by virtue if its relationship with other matter.
The word 'monk' comes from the Latin for 'alone'. Yet monks live in community because they discover themselves by bumping into other monks discovering themselves.
We exist only because of our relationship with another.
We need encounters with other particles to define our reality.
The more that we bump into each other the more we bring ourselves into existence.
The more we become who we are.
A Complaint About Me? Why thank you for filing smooth my uneven edges.
A Performance Review? How kind of you to buff me into a sparkling shine.
Shall I Make a Decision? Oh please do so that I can learn more about you.
Cooo-EE!
Marco!.....
...[polo].
Hardy.
Andrew Zolli, the Author of 'Resilience: Why Things Bounce Back" was interviewed recently about his book. He said the following (with my bits added in brackets) that affirmed the value of the Widget:
'People who are psychologically hardy believe very prevalently in some things about the world. If you believe that the world is a meaningful place [Personal Widget]. If you see yourself as having agency within that world [Good Decision Making]. And if you see success and failures as being placed in your path to teach you things [Decisions Measured Against Widget], you are more likely to be psychologically hardy and therefore more resilient in the face of trauma [Life].
Criticism.
A senior official in local government was interviewed on radio about their response to a report that had criticised some decisions that the council had proposed.
The journalist asked him whether he was concerned that a political agenda was what motivated the report. His reply surprised and delighted me.
'No, not really. It's just another piece of information that we'll consider in deciding what is in the best interests of the community.'
Widget Thinking in action.
I'm a naïve inquirer.
This is information and I get to decide its value.
Its value is determined by what it tells me about making a better community (Widget).
It will be considered on its merits along with all the other information.
(Thank you and please keep sending me information about my Widget.)
Play.
Jonathon sent me an article recently about reconciling the highly regimented processes and structures in modern football with the desire of most sportsmen to just play on instinct.
It reminded me of a paper I wrote during my Masters of Defence Studies on how much the effectiveness of modern armed forces relied on the threat of courts martial and other forms of discipline. The simplistic view is that sailors soldiers and airmen put themselves in harm's way out of fear of being punished if they hesitate. An infantryman charges a machine gun nest because his officers told him to do it. I didn't think that this could be the thinking in modern armed forces. But I couldn't think of an alternative explanation.
My research directed me to a senior Air Force officer who had studied this question and presented a simple answer. Members of the armed forces behaving contrary to normal instincts of self-preservation was the result of thousands of hours of drills and other training. Soldiers' instincts had been re-programmed so that they reacted in a predictable way to coming under fire, and they knew that everyone else in their section was doing the same in a practised drill. They had become unconsciously competent.
Much like the air traffic controllers, this rote response actually freed their minds up to consider more creative options to deal with the threat. Soldiers charge machine gun nests because it's what they've been trained to do. It's their Widget. Not to detract from the significantly higher risk to them of this behaviour compared to that faced by the average office worker. This is why those whose actions are recognised with medals usually shrug awkwardly when asked about their bravery. They were doing their job. They knew that their fellow soldiers' ability to do their jobs depended on it.
The justification for the structures in football is much the same. As the writer of the article concludes:
'I think the key that ultimately opens the door for most footballers is that this process is not the football bogyman at all. In fact, if adhered to, these structures will let you return to the battle cry that made you a good player to begin with: ''JUST LET ME PLAY!''
In simple terms, all of these set plays and crosses on the whiteboard are just a place to start. With the right amount of teaching and practice, getting to these spots just becomes part of the routine, part of the rhythm of a game.
For the best players, it gives them a freedom, too. A starting point. To be in the spot your team needs you to be in can give a player a sense of inner confidence.'
Good policies, procedures, routines and Widgets in a workplace do the same. Combined with a good boss, far from constraining us, they free us to just play.
Always.
Your boss is always right. Always.
This is the First Rule of Employment.
Remember this - and you will set yourself free - one way or the other.
Your boss is always right because it is her Widget that you are helping to build. Your job is to give whatever expertise that you have to your boss in whatever form that you usually give it. If she says that you're wrong - then she should know because it's her Widget that you're wrong about.
Your job is to build the best Widget possible for your boss to incorporate into her Widget.
If you think that your boss is wrong - there are two possibilities: There is something about your Widget that you don't understand or there is something about the boss's Widget that you don't understand. Because your boss is always right. If you think that your boss is wrong (and of course she's not) then ask sincere questions with the mind of the naïve inquirer. Not in an annoying way - she's busy.
If you're the boss being asked those questions, then be secure enough to respond to them in a non-defensive, open-minded manner. Why wouldn't you? You want the questioner to make the best Widget possible because your Widget depends on it.
If you know that your team will always assume that you are right once you've made a decision - then the pressure is on to make sure that you are right - because they're off making their Widget to plug into your Widget based on the specs that you've given them.
You can't lose, boss. Because if you're confident about your Widget and how your team contributes to it, then the questioner will go away with their answers and do their bit to make sure your Widget is shiny. If the questions do reveal a flaw in your Widget, or at least the questioner's understanding of their Widget, then best to find that out now and remedy it, before your boss - or worse still - your customer does.
(This is the real incentive to have a genuine Open Door policy.)
The 'My Boss is Always Right' Rule is so counter-intuitively empowering. You can't lose - boss or worker.
It frees you up to focus your energies on making your Widget. Or to go and find somewhere else to work where your boss's right aligns with what you think is right.
Or better still - leave and become your own boss. And quickly learn how good life was when you had a Boss that was always right.
UIOGD.
In gold letters above the Benedictine Monastery gates at New Norcia for all the world to see:
UIOGD.
Ut In Omnibus Glorificetur Dei.
That In All Things May God be Glorified.
A mission statement dating back to the sixth century.
God's glory is the Widget and the buildings and surrounds are the monks' efforts to make it visible.
The monks declare their Weekend and Weekday Widget to the world. They open themselves to be made accountable for their progress.
Transition.
The Weekend Australian newspaper published an editorial assessing the pace of decisions by the new Federal Government a couple of weeks after being elected.
It noted that the various Ministers were not hurrying about their business because of the 'obvious' reason that 'once these decisions are taken the clock starts ticking on getting results'.
It also applauded the approach of the Government of 'asking departments for advice before leaping into action.'
It also noted that this slow pace may be 'awkward for a leader who promised action'.
The transition from candidate to leader is almost always awkward, regardless of whether it's moving from opposition leader making promises to the electorate to becoming prime minister or the enthusiastic job applicant selling themselves into the position of being someone's boss.
One of the hallmarks of a leader is the discipline to withhold action after changing roles. The Dreyfus Model of Skill Acquisition posits that an expert is most vulnerable when they have to apply their expertise in a different context. An expert is fragile in this phase for another reason. Experts rely on confidence and yet one of the characteristics of expertise is recognising how ignorant you are. A juicy paradox.
Experts who change roles - whether it be from a member of the opposition to government minister or from one employer to another or from worker to line manager - need to resist the 'quick wins', the grand gestures and other superficial acts that declare their arrival.
Instead they may need to endure a rising level of gleeful ridicule from their critics as well as disappointment from their supporters as they take their time to absorb the new terrain.
They also need a boss who is expert enough to understand this settling in period and to patiently allow for it.
Discernment.
“But I am always wary of decisions made hastily. I am always wary of the first decision, that is, the first thing that comes to my mind if I have to make a decision. This is usually the wrong thing. I have to wait and assess, looking deep into myself, taking the necessary time. The wisdom of discernment redeems the necessary ambiguity of life and helps us find the most appropriate means, which do not always coincide with what looks great and strong.”